What NOT To Say To A Pregnant Woman
As a pregnant woman, I have gotten some really shocking comments lately.
Here are just a few of the comments I got at work the other day:
“Have a little too much Halloween candy, Sarah?”
“Your are getting big!”
“No more food for you.”
Yes, you heard that last one correctly.
Mind you, I’m not really that big… Yet, anyways. I still have 8 more weeks. I feel huge but in the realm of pregnant largeness I still have a ways to go. However, I’m embracing this final nesting stage entirely.
I have recently “popped” though and apparently people are feeling the need to comment. Sometimes not very appropriately.
If I didn’t know better I may have started to develop a complex. But I know that there will always be people who don’t think before they speak.
My reply remained the same for each not-so-appropriate comment: a polite “yes, I am aware that I am pregnant, thank you.”
But what I want to say is “have you never seen a pregnant lady before, you idiot?!”
Pregnancy is NOT an invitation to negatively comment on my body.
(You could be passive aggressive like me and wear this funny t-shirt).
Here are a few other things to never say to a pregnant women that should be obvious, but for some reason are not:
- “Are you having twins?”
- “You are so huge!”
- “You are still tiny, is the baby OK?” (obviously not my issue at the moment but I did hear that a lot during my first pregnancy and it did make me unnecessarily concerned.
Here are a few appropriate, kind things to say to a pregnant women:
- “You look amazing.” (Or any other body positive comment- pregnant women are amazing. We create and incubate a life for 9 long months. Pretty much the coolest thing ever).
- “How are you feeling?”
- “You are glowing.”
- “Let me know if you need anything.”
- “What are you looking forward to the most?”
There are so many pleasant, supportive things to say to a pregnant women. Or you could just say nothing at all. Especially in the case that you are not absolutely certain that someone is 100% pregnant. Talk about mortifying.
Common sense if the key here. When in doubt if something you are about to say is not appropriate, then its probably best not to say it.
Did you have people say things about your size or state of pregnancy that hurt your feelings? How did you respond?
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